Shopping for Movies

Most adults in this country shop for movies in a weird way. I’ve done this too, just not as much anymore. Most adults look for rated R. Rated G or PG has to be a kid’s movie, right? And who wants to see some stupid kid’s movie if we don’t have the kids with us? A PG-13 movie has to be some (even stupider) teen movie, right?

Of course, it’s all about perspective. For young children, the forbidden PG-13 movie is interesting and glamorous mostly because only big brother or sister can watch it. As a teen, sneaking into the R-rated movie was exciting, mostly because it’s forbidden.

Many people shop for movies by rating. It’s understandable, but wow, what a mess it creates. With adults and teens looking for R-rated movies, movie producers create R-rated movies. It doesn’t matter to them what the movie needs to tell the story well. They get the rating. How? With a lot of unneeded violence (and the occasional extraneous sex scene).

Many of us lament the unnecessary violence and garbage in movies, and we’re exactly right. All that excessive violence is completely unnecessary, except that that’s what it takes to get the R rating. And the R rating is what it takes to get (most) adults to watch the movie. It’s not even that the rating system is bad, but most people use it badly.

How to fix this? Adults can look for movies that appeal to them, even if they aren’t rated R. Some of the most meaningful, amazing movies ever are movies that anyone could watch. Reviewers often include who they think the movie will appeal to, if people would pay attention. Maybe some weeks there just aren’t any good movies at the cinema; we could always do something else!

 

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Live the Dream, Part 2

I’m following my dream of writing for a living, and I face a lot of challenges. There’s no guarantee of success, and many talented writers do not succeed. The support of family, friends, and even almost-strangers might be the difference. Do you want to help? (You may have already!)

Here are some very specific and dated requests for help:

1) If you have any interest in urban fantasy (some of which can be read as fiction, since it’s set in the modern world), would you buy my ebook this week? Short stories are bite sized, and you own at least one device capable of displaying them.

2) If you know anybody who reads fiction, especially fantasy, would you mention my book to someone this week?

3) If you liked my ebook(s), would you write a short review on the kindle site this week? One sentence about the part you liked best would do!

4) If you have any ideas about marketing, would you tell me this week? I think for myself, but if you’re sitting there saying, “You know, he should really try…”, then I’d welcome the thoughts.

Generally, the blog is for insights that you might find of some value. But as John Donne said, “no man is an island.” I appreciate your help!  Thank you for your support.

 

 

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Live the dream?! Part 1

It’s official, sportsfans. I have informed my supervisor that I will be resigning from full-time teaching in order to write for a living. Teaching is a calling, and there’s good work to be done at the community college. I will pursue my dream, however, and move back closer to family. Also, I’ll live more in balance, something that mostly eludes me during the school year. There will be room to teach a community-interest creative writing class, too.

I’m excited! So many ideas for stories, so little time! I’m learning lots about how to get people to notice my writing. The last three summers writing have helped me to find my stride and to learn what works. I can do it. The first novel wasn’t a fluke or a one-off; it’s repeatable.  Writing and study and chores and exercise and family and friends and odd jobs make Greg a really, really happy, (almost) self-actualized, energetic boy!  (The workplace term is flow.)

So far, Lightning Strikes Twice is ready for publication; I’ll either catch a print publisher’s interest or publish it as an ebook this year. Sister Moon: Stories of the Supernatural is published as an Amazon Kindle ebook. A set of three short stories that I wrote over Christmas break is ready to publish as soon as copyright registration is complete.

Will it be easy or all go perfectly smoothly? No. I have some savings and a dream, not a guarantee of success. Do you want to help? More on that next time.

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Quote of the Day

“What this country needs is more people to inspire others with confidence, and fewer people to discourage any initiative in the right direction,” mused Father James Keller.

 

He may have been writing some time ago, but it seems like massive understatement today.  The country really needs leaders, and people willing to try.  Discouraging someone doesn’t require any knowledge or understanding.  Any idiot can tell us five reasons why our new ideas won’t work! But does the critic have any better ideas?  If so, pay attention, but usually not.  It takes real understanding, effort, and courage to try to change anything for the better.   It takes tenacity to persist after the nay-sayers jump in.   We desperately need changes for the better, though, so please keep trying!

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Quote of the Day

“Human beings, who are almost unique in having the ability to learn from the experience of others, are also remarkable for their apparent disinclination to do so,” wrote Douglas Adams.

 

Sometimes I have to remind myself to keep my mouth shut and my ears open, so that I can learn the easy way… from someone else.  Frequently I watch people I care about walk smack into brick walls because they refused to listen to everyone trying to give a little advice.   People clearly have to learn the hard way sometimes, and make their own mistakes.  That’s tough to watch.

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Time-Management Part 3

Wow, the four quadrants really help!   I keep a dry erase marker (poster board sized) on the wall to list what I need to do, and it used to be in calendar and day format.  For New Year’s, I erased all that and redid it in the four quadrants.  So far, it’s given a clearer picture of what really needs doing.  Also, because “important and urgent” tends to get stressful, it really encourages me to knock things out BEFORE they become URGENT!  I knew that, but it’s easier to keep track of now.  If you already know this, it’s probably pretty obvious, but Covey’s four quadrants has really clarified my thinking and helped me keep quick and easy tabs on multiple projects.

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Time-Management Part 2

The second insight that Stephen Covey has about the four quadrants is that we should focus on what’s important before it becomes urgent. Today there are way too many things in the important and urgent quadrant, which is stressful. I’ve either put off doing things or I’m trying to do too many things at once. I’m hoping over the next chunk of time to see more of my tasks in quadrant II, the important but not (yet) urgent. This will get just as much done towards my goals but feel less stressful because I knock tasks before they become high-pressure. We’ll see how it goes.

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Time Management Part 1

One time-management idea of Stephen Covey’s that I’ve latched onto is the four quadrants. Things to do might be important and/or urgent, with one quadrant for each combination. The first insight is that things that are not important and not urgent are time wasters. There should be a little time for fun after work, or there’s no point in living. When I feel like I don’t have enough time to do everything, though, it usually indicates I need to cut back on the not important, not urgent activities. That frees up time for what matters.

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Merry Christmas!

I’m looking forward to spending some time with family and friends for Christmas. I live farther away from them than I really want to. It’s tough to travel to visit, so I don’t do it as often as I would like. So I’m thinking about you if you have loved ones far away today. If you have the chance, spend some time with your people, or at least know that you are loved. Merry Christmas!

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Persistence Part 2

The bonus question is: how can people recognize the butter zone of persistence? How can I tell when I’m being determined enough but not too stubborn? First, people need to have clear goals in mind. People must set their own goals because working toward someone else’s plan is just busy work. Second, they’re making steady progress, little steps, towards those goals. Small steps daily may work best because if I don’t do something every day I tend to get out of the routine. (It’s not that I make progress on everything daily, but it’s only a good day once I’ve made some progress on something.) So if I’m not taking a few small steps daily, then I’m not being persistent enough. On the other hand, there’s the danger of getting stuck in a rut. I might be beating my head against a brick wall if I keep trying the same small steps over and over again but see no progress. That just means try it another way. I might look for a door in the brick wall, or go around it, or go over it. Also, I try to live a balanced life, which means recreation and spending time with friends and family. Life should be fun, too, so the work ends before the day does.

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